How much information is ‘too much information’?
Relationships go through all kinds of trials and tribulations, peaks and pits, and steady evolution’s. From butterflies in your stomach to pure anxiety over the unknown, if you haven’t felt the sensation of a roller-coaster while in a relationship then you are a sacred minority.
Ultimately, though, it’s a two person ride and privacy is imperative. While we all enjoy a juicy bit of gossip over brunch or drinks, our friends may not always want the full download on our relationship and we shouldn’t always want to give it either. Sometimes ‘too much information’ means exactly that.
Here are the top five things about your relationship that you shouldn’t share with friends;
- When you’re going through a sex slump
Going through a sex slump when in a relationship is totally normal; it’s nothing to worry about. Naturally, though, we overthink the situation and before you know it you’re detailing your dry season to your closest friends. But they’re not the person you want to have sex with. If your sex life has slowed down with your partner then speak to them about it, work through it and make time to be intimate together.
- Bedroom kink
What happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom. Your partner’s sexual fantasies were shared with you in the comfort of your relationship zone, which your friends weren’t invited to. Don’t divulge your partner’s dirty secrets to your besties; you don’t know how it could affect their view of him.
- Money issues
Only you can make your friends respect your partner, and if you’re bad-mouthing him behind his back you’re setting him up for failure. Money is the root of many arguments; whether you have too much or not enough. Keep your financial arrangements, like who pays more rent, who bought last week’s groceries or if you’ve had to lend him money to yourself.
- Playing away from home
Whether it’s an emotional or a physical affair, any acts that caused you or your partner to stray outside the confines of your relationship should be kept schtum. Friends have opinions and you may not want to hear them if you’re feeling fragile about the situation. Sharing the details with your mates instead of your partner will make coming back from the affair even harder. Similarly, if you think that your partner is cheating then ask them, don’t use your friends as a soundboard for advice. Speculation is the enemy of calm.
- Details about his bits
It’s common to dish the details on your partner’s body when you first start dating them, men do it too and the conversations often get rowdy. But if you can see yourself with this person long-term, do you really want your mates to know what size he is or which direction it bends? If it’s something that could potentially embarrass him, leave it out.