Definitely. Pleasure isn’t just nice to have: the World Health Organisation defines it as an important part of sexual health, so we can’t just talk about sex through a negative lens which was the kind of education I grew up with.
It is changing, but very slowly and there’s still a lot of conversations around pregnancy prevention and disease prevention rather than anything to do with pleasure.
It creates really unhelpful narratives for women when they don’t prioritise their experience and instead prioritise the experience of others, leaving them to often experience pain.
We’re sending people out into the world without information on how to have healthy sexual behaviours and attitudes. We’re doing them a disservice by not including it in the conversation.
There is a fear that if you make sex sound desirable, young people will have more of.
We know, however, that the more you educate and the more info you provide, the more likely young people are to go out to have healthier, happier and more pleasurable experiences. It doesn’t mean they’re going off and having rampant sex.
Knowledge is power. The more knowledge you can give and the more you can create an understanding of what sex should be like, the more we’ll be having healthy sex.
In the UK, one in five women is a survivor of sexual violence and sexual assault. For some, it’s a violent experience and for others its a misunderstanding of consent and miscommunication of what the experience should feel like and be like. That stems from education.