We should have been taught that being confused about your sexuality, gender and identity is normal. That you’re allowed to be curious, to change and explore yourself and other people with their consent. Instead, we were taught that ‘when a man loves a woman, he puts his penis in her vagina.’ There is soooo much wrong with this sentence, but it’s what I was raised on. SRE is political.
It’s about our identities, about power in the world and how it is distributed. It’s also about whether we are allowed to exist by law (as a nonbinary person, not at the moment), and whether we are embraced and accepted by society and ourselves.
I’m currently doing a lot of thinking and workshop programming on BPOC nonbinary identity. EG, Gender non conforming people have always had a place in South Asian and Hindu culture. Unfortunately, due to colonisation, South Asian’s have absorbed an imported homophobia which runs deep within mindsets. The new statutory guidance for Relationships and Sex Education released by the British government in 2019 states that LGBT+ identities should be taught at a ‘timely manner’ and when schools deem it ‘appropriate.’
This queerphobia, alongside current so-called ‘debates’ around much needed revision to the Gender Recognition Act makes Britain a hostile and isolating ‘home’ for all queer folk like myself. Decolonising Contraception and Sexplain (who I work for) are delivering inclusive and intersectional SRE which goes beyond the SRE guidance. This, in my opinion, is absolutely essential.