If your sex education just covers basic biological, heterosexual penetrative sex, you’re not going to learn about most forms of contraception, or other types of non P in V sex.
Focusing on biology and pregnancy also misses the reason many people have sex in the first place, i.e. because it feels good.
“Understanding what feels good and feeling like you can talk about that is a really key part of having healthy, consensual relationships,” Emily says. “If you’re taught that it’s okay to understand what feels good for you and to communicate that, it can also empower you to say ‘actually, that doesn’t feel good for me.”
It is important that young people don’t grow up feeling ashamed of their sexuality or are made to think that sex is dirty or wrong.
By talking openly about sex and sexual pleasure in sex education, we can help lift the taboo and encourage the next generation to feel comfortable talking about sex, both in terms of their own pleasure and to empower them to feel comfortable saying no.
“’I’m talking about de-stigmatising the taboos around sex and relationships,” Emily says, “it’s very important that young people understand that it’s not wrong for them to have these natural curiosities about their bodies and to want to explore them. They need to be taught that it’s a very natural and normal part of growing up.”
“It all needs to be underpinned by this idea that this is normal and it’s absolutely natural to have conversations about sex,” she continues, “It’s okay for us to talk about this, it’s okay for us to normalise this, and it’s okay for you to have questions.”