In the same way that you will eventually get tired of your baggy jeans dragging on the floor, soaking up rainy puddles and eventually tearing, making you trip up on rips and go hurtling towards bus doors, you will also get tired of getting your sex education from girls in school.
Your mates might be right about the fact that Placebo are the best band ever, that Korn merch will never go out of style, and that you’ll probably never have a crush as intense as your one on Brandon Boyd, but she’s not right about the fact that boys lose interest if you don’t wanna have sex.
Or that there’s only one way to experience it, or that it’s fixed to a gender. It’s fluid, and you’ll also have to learn that it’s not a level playing field when it comes to how boys are allowed to articulate pleasure and desire, but you’ll find your voice. Build a network of non-judgemental people you can talk to about this stuff (without bitchy Asian aunties intercepting via snitch cousins) and learn how to shrug about it all.
Always find the jokes, because it’s supposed to be fun – and confusion around contraception, fears, the myths, the details and the shame all dissipate once you get a sense of humour about it.
Saying that, I do advise stretch every morning for optimum acrobatics. Start early!!
It might be a few years before you learn how powerful it is to say no – (not just in sex, in life, love, career and friendships, trust me, it will change your life) and you will learn that the most intense love you will ever feel will be with someone you can just be with. It might not make sense now, but it will. I’m excited for you.