Do you feel like your sex education didn’t focus on the things you actually wanted to learn? From watching a video of a dog giving birth to a teacher fainting after describing a diaphragm, we’ve heard many sex education horror stories.
“A lot of Sex Ed takes a ‘fear-based’ approach to education and focuses on the ‘dont’s’, i.e. don’t get pregnant, don’t get an STI, don’t have sex,” Anne says.
“It also tends to highlight menstruation and reproduction whilst leaving out topics like pleasure, intimacy, and communication. There is also little to no discussion of alternative relationship styles like non-monogamy or singledom and very little emphasis on LGTBQIA+ communities,” she continues.
We believe that you’re never really ‘done’ with sex education – you’re always learning new things as your life and body changes. “Sex Education treats our lives like they’re static,” says Anna, “it doesn’t take into account all the various ebbs and flows we go through and how that influences our relationship to sex.”
“Stress, anxiety, health, long-term relationships, breakups, pregnancy, miscarriage, abortion, sexual violence, parenthood, menopause, loss – all of these can profoundly influence our libido,” she continues, “yet sex remains a topic we cover once and then never really come back to every again.”
If you don’t know where to start, you can always start with our educational #AskElla series, or have a quick click through the Sex Index . If audio learning more your thing, you can download our #MyMorningAfter podcast and get your Sex Ed to go.