Shame can also stem from blaming yourself for your perceived failures. Humans always seek out an explanation for behaviour, so in this case, needing emergency contraception.
When we blame, or are led to blame ourselves, feelings of shame are quick to bubble to the surface.
You may think to yourself: ‘Why did I forget to use a condom?’ or ‘How was I so stupid’’. Note: sex requires two people – so why are women the ones to bear both the blame and the shame?
Accept that things happen, sex can be spontaneous, condoms can break or be forgotten without it being your fault. Don’t blame yourself or let others blame you.
After all: once it’s happened, you have to move on and make a responsible choice about what to do next. If you don’t want to risk an unplanned pregnancy, it’s a sensible idea to seek emergency contraception.